šŸ“‘ The Problem With ā€˜No Regrets’

Bookmarked The Problem With ā€˜No Regrets’ by Arthur C. Brooks (theatlantic.com)

If you never pine for a different past, you’ll stay trapped in a cycle of mistakes.

Discussing Dan Pink’s book The Power of Regret, Arthur Brooks unpacks the world of regret. He discusses the four varieties:

  • Connection regret
  • Moral regret
  • Foundation regret
  • Boldness regret

Brooks explains that the challenge is to “acknowledge it and use it for learning and improvement.” To do so, he provides three steps for contemplating the past:

  • Kill the ghost by owning the ghost
  • Forgive yourself
  • Collect your diploma and build on your experience

One response on “šŸ“‘ The Problem With ā€˜No Regrets’”

  1. A thinking activity I like to use is to give an answer and then come up with the question. This month it feels like I have been the answer for far too many questions. Whether it be calling out problematic workflows, sorting out integration concerns, identifying access issues, fixing up spreadsheets, the answer for each seems to be me. In part it it has left me feeling like a failure in that I have not adequately built the capacity of others to sort things out, but sometimes in life when we find someone who can get things done we just go to them.
    Sadly, as I started back at work in the second week of January, I did not have a much a break over Christmas. Just enough time to get a few things done around the house, such as fixing the shower. As well as catching up with a some friends. I had forgotten how much I missed in catch up with people in person. The mixed blessing is that my family and I subsequently stayed around home for much of the school holidays even though we were not in lockdown.
    Personally, I have continued reading Proust’s Rembrance of Things Past, while I have been listening to The Weeknd and The Wombats. I have also been watching a lot, including Eternals, Tolkien, The Punisher and various documentaries on WWII and tanks.
    Here then are some of the posts that have had me thinking:
    Education
    Why Wordle Works, According to Desmos Lesson Developers
    Approaching Wordle from the perspective of learning and teaching, Dan Meyer summarises the ingredients that have helped make it work so well.
    5 strategies for reading complex texts
    Rather than simply relying on simpler texts, Alex Quigley discusses some strategies for supporting students with grappling with more difficult texts.
    How to Build the Perfect Castle
    Epic History TV walks through many of the different variables in the process of building the perfect castle.
    Technology
    The History of the School Bell
    Audrey Watters pushes back on the idea of the factory model in regards to the history of the school bell.
    AI Won’t Steal Your Job, But It’ll Sure Make It Suck
    Whether it be food delivery drivers working for a phantom boss or Amazon workers unable to stop for the toilet, Clive Thompson provides examples of the way in which AI has made some jobs suck.
    General
    The Fellowship of the Rockers
    Ann Powers uses Get Back to reflect upon the myth of ā€˜band guys’.
    On Songwriting
    Through a series of posts, Kevin Hodgson explores his process of songwriting.
    Monks, a polymath and an invention made by two people at the same time. It’s all in the history of the index
    Anna Kelsey-Sugg and Julie Street discuss Dennis Duncan research into the index.
    The Problem With ā€˜No Regrets’
    Arthur Brooks explains that the challenge with regret is to acknowledge the past and use it for learning and improvement.
    Read Write Respond #072
    So that was January for me, how about you? As always, hope you are safe and well, especially during this latest wave.
    Image by Bryan Mathers
    Inspired by the eruption of the volcano in Tonga, cover image via ā€œSheffield LEGO fest 2006: Volcanoā€ by aldisley is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND

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